Hmmm so how to be the Alpha male.
1. Look and dress confidently,doesn't really matter how you look
2. If you have some money,spend it on yourself,not her ,first
3. Never show direct interest in women all around.Keep distance and seem aloof
4. In a group of friends which includes the "prospect" be careful to not seem as being "led" but be a leader or one of the leaders
5. When she is in a group of friends,give her attention for few moments and then ignore her by addressing her friends.
6. Dont call regularly,at same time everyday or SMS regularly at same time.
7. Use the "Hot" & "Cold" routine regularly,It is mentioned in detail in next post
8.Never show that "you can't" live without her
"Nice Guys Vs Jerks" Debate,Indian Perspective
One of the most common debates in the cyberworld regarding "Love" is the Nice guys vs Jerks. This refers to a common perception that women like guys who are ,what most other men,would refer to as "jerks".I mean how many times do you see an attractive girl hanging out with a guy whom most of the men in your fraternity would refer as a worthless fellow.Someone who is "bad guy" or who has got a "reputation".
The Standards and rules which most of these websites talk about is the Western concept of Nice Guys or Jerks.The situations described are no more suitable to their culture.I decided to go through the concepts and see how they are or are not applicable to the Indian scenario.
The first thing that I can comment is,They are applicable,but with clear local variations.
So what is the Indian "Nice guy Vs Jerks" take.
The truth is that the normal girl grows up on a staple diet of Western movies,bollywood fests and Tv soaps,where the "Hero" is usually a protector and defender of "good",So how come in the college the same girl goes out with a guy you would define as a "creep".Or ever wonder the slightly slick friend of yours whom you may not trust with your pet dog is the one who dates the prettiest or the most happening women of the class? How come the most coolest chick in the office does not accept your invitation for coffee at CCD but is gyrating on the dance floor with Talwar from accounts,that guy who is supposed to be having an affair with the CFO's secretary?
How come when you finally propose the girl of your dreams ,she turns around and gives "Just friend" answer and then eventually goes on to introduce you to the guy ,who used to be the one she confided to you once as the one she detests ,as her real love????
The reasons can be variable,but one thing is always true,the guys who appears more exciting to the Indian woman like her western counter part,is her choice.In that sense they are both similar.But what may be defied as an "acceptable " behaviour by a western woman may not be same as an Indian.
Indian women,especially urban under 30's have grown up in post liberalisation age.They have been exposed to all nuances of western culture and react similarly.So what defines an Indian Nice guy
"Nice Guys" are very self-conscious, have very little friends, are tense, and walk around mistrustful of anyone and everyone they see, whether they realize it or not. As MANY people have told most likely told you, confidence is always number 1 on any women's list when on the prowl for a potential man."Nice Guys" have very little confidence, and often let girls walk all over them. To be a nice guy and a doormat is completely different. The instinct of a girl is to find the alpha male, wow you may be saying "Darwin's theory is true, survival of the fittest". If you put 1 girl in a room with 2 guys, one was standing in the corner too shy to speak to this girl, and the other one was talking to her, flirting and such, honestly who do you think she would pick?
The key again, is confidence, not cockiness, there is a fine line between the two but you should be able to distinguish between the both. "Why do good girls, like bad boys?" You may have heard the song. Young girls like jerks, or at least the aura that these so-called jerks give off. They subconsciously, instinctively like the dominating male who will provide the strongest young, and protect her and himself.Most girls like a challenge, you have to make her want you. Next time a girl asks you to.. oh say pick up a pen, try saying something like do it yourself, and go talk to another girl so she can see it. This plays on a very basic emotion, which is jealousy, hence the challenge, or the game. They want something they can't have (seemingly), and that makes them want it much much more. There are many things you can do to increase this want, for example, if approaching a large group of girls, talk to the one you like, then talk to the girls around her, or even your friends. This is the game, playing hard to get.Back to the whole niceguy thing, girls do want a nice guy - in a sense. They want a guy who is nice - privately. Be a gentlemen to them at your house, but to initially get the girl, intrigue her, make her ask herself "Why doesn't he like me..". Give her attention, but give attention to others. Girls want a guy who is wanted by others, they're competitive like that.
Humans (girls ARE humans) want what they cannot have.Girls want what other girls want (a sub-instinct, jealousy/competitiveness)Girls like masculinity, let the testerone show, cuss out the next fucker that says something to you in class Play THE GAME This is it, again it's very unorganized, think of it as a rough draft, I'll update it eventually, but for now, you hopefully get the idea.Confidence - the #1 thing girls look for, subconsciously or consciously
The Standards and rules which most of these websites talk about is the Western concept of Nice Guys or Jerks.The situations described are no more suitable to their culture.I decided to go through the concepts and see how they are or are not applicable to the Indian scenario.
The first thing that I can comment is,They are applicable,but with clear local variations.
So what is the Indian "Nice guy Vs Jerks" take.
The truth is that the normal girl grows up on a staple diet of Western movies,bollywood fests and Tv soaps,where the "Hero" is usually a protector and defender of "good",So how come in the college the same girl goes out with a guy you would define as a "creep".Or ever wonder the slightly slick friend of yours whom you may not trust with your pet dog is the one who dates the prettiest or the most happening women of the class? How come the most coolest chick in the office does not accept your invitation for coffee at CCD but is gyrating on the dance floor with Talwar from accounts,that guy who is supposed to be having an affair with the CFO's secretary?
How come when you finally propose the girl of your dreams ,she turns around and gives "Just friend" answer and then eventually goes on to introduce you to the guy ,who used to be the one she confided to you once as the one she detests ,as her real love????
The reasons can be variable,but one thing is always true,the guys who appears more exciting to the Indian woman like her western counter part,is her choice.In that sense they are both similar.But what may be defied as an "acceptable " behaviour by a western woman may not be same as an Indian.
Indian women,especially urban under 30's have grown up in post liberalisation age.They have been exposed to all nuances of western culture and react similarly.So what defines an Indian Nice guy
"Nice Guys" are very self-conscious, have very little friends, are tense, and walk around mistrustful of anyone and everyone they see, whether they realize it or not. As MANY people have told most likely told you, confidence is always number 1 on any women's list when on the prowl for a potential man."Nice Guys" have very little confidence, and often let girls walk all over them. To be a nice guy and a doormat is completely different. The instinct of a girl is to find the alpha male, wow you may be saying "Darwin's theory is true, survival of the fittest". If you put 1 girl in a room with 2 guys, one was standing in the corner too shy to speak to this girl, and the other one was talking to her, flirting and such, honestly who do you think she would pick?
The key again, is confidence, not cockiness, there is a fine line between the two but you should be able to distinguish between the both. "Why do good girls, like bad boys?" You may have heard the song. Young girls like jerks, or at least the aura that these so-called jerks give off. They subconsciously, instinctively like the dominating male who will provide the strongest young, and protect her and himself.Most girls like a challenge, you have to make her want you. Next time a girl asks you to.. oh say pick up a pen, try saying something like do it yourself, and go talk to another girl so she can see it. This plays on a very basic emotion, which is jealousy, hence the challenge, or the game. They want something they can't have (seemingly), and that makes them want it much much more. There are many things you can do to increase this want, for example, if approaching a large group of girls, talk to the one you like, then talk to the girls around her, or even your friends. This is the game, playing hard to get.Back to the whole niceguy thing, girls do want a nice guy - in a sense. They want a guy who is nice - privately. Be a gentlemen to them at your house, but to initially get the girl, intrigue her, make her ask herself "Why doesn't he like me..". Give her attention, but give attention to others. Girls want a guy who is wanted by others, they're competitive like that.
Humans (girls ARE humans) want what they cannot have.Girls want what other girls want (a sub-instinct, jealousy/competitiveness)Girls like masculinity, let the testerone show, cuss out the next fucker that says something to you in class Play THE GAME This is it, again it's very unorganized, think of it as a rough draft, I'll update it eventually, but for now, you hopefully get the idea.Confidence - the #1 thing girls look for, subconsciously or consciously
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